jpad, I am a massage-a-holic and a massage therapist(MT). I have a simple technique to receive massage form your partner. Offer them one first or second. Break out the timer, i do all the time. Offer a fair trade of 15 min or whatever. I trade hours all the time, but I have a passion, not to mention education and massage table, for this. Everyone loves massage. giving it can be just as rewarding. i'm sure your partner could use a shoulder rub too, so tell him he gets one after you, and he he wants 30min so do you :lol:
this usually works like a charm. good luck